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Bad habits Gone Good? Time to Shake Off Bad Relationship Etiquacy

Ever got used to a bad habit and now it seems good? Some interactive behaviors we carry with us have become a part of our daily routine and we see nothing wrong with them. However have you ever thought of the effects of having an awful interactive relationship? Wake up!! Now is the time to shake it off.

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Ever got used to a bad habit and now it seems good? Some interactive behaviors we carry with us have become a part of our daily routine and we see nothing wrong with them. However have you ever thought of the effects of having an awful interactive relationship? Wake up!! Now is the time to shake it off.

For some unknown reason we have become comfortable with doing stuff that is out of our interactive norm (attribute it to technology maybe). We have even gone an extra mile and adopted all these improprieties and applied them into our relationships. Bad habits are easy to adopt but hard to shake off. Let us take some time to reflect a bit on some of the ‘normal anomalies’ we have come to acknowledge as a way of interaction. Here are some of the bad habits that have turned into acceptable behaviour:

Short-hand writing
Honestly  speaking, you cannot write short-hand to your partner, its a definite NO!. He/She seriously deserves enough respect and appreciation, so show some sense of difference between your random chats with friends and your partner. ‘Hud, Wud, Sup, K, Wuup, Lol, Lmao’ are a No! You need to show some enthusiasm. What happened to ‘what are you doing, what are you up to, What’s up?’ Every person wants to feel special, so do that for you other half.

Blue ticks
H*ll no! You cannot blue tick your boyfriend/girlfriend, it’s unacceptable in any relationship sphere. If you are bus,y the least you can do is try to communicate that. What is your significant other supposed to do or think if you just read their message and then go silent on them? NEVER EVER blue tick someone if you take them seriously, this is straight up offensive.

 

Short responses
Personally I feel that I can’t send you a paragraph and you respond with a ‘K’, ‘really’ or ‘Yah hey’. Such short responses suggest that I am nagging you. If you are busy or probably not in the mood to talk, I think it is best to man up (or woman up) and tell your significant other. Short responses are conversation killers; yes I said it they are CONVERSATION KILLERS. Most of the times you end up not knowing what to say after they hit you up with a short response. Should you continue trying to make conversation or should you curl up under a stone and cry yourself to sleep? Those are the questions that run through my mind every time I get a short response.

WhatsApp Calls
Oh well, it’s great to use all the features that an application comes with. However, it becomes a problem when overused. The tendency of not buying airtime and sticking to WhatsApp calls is so unattractive! Times are hard yes we all feel it, but once in a while kindly buy airtime and call your partner; do a proper call, we all need that without having to hear the buffering beep of a WhatsApp call. WhatsApp calls are acceptable in case of an emergency but not all the time. Only call me via WhatsApp when its a do or die matter.

 

Intermingling Friendships
Your friends are your friends, and not your partners friends, let it stay that way. The business of having the same friends becoming one big happy clique is goals to many, but it is very dangerous, so walk that path with caution. We all need space once in a while. We need our own set of friends and independent confidant. What happens when you break up with your partner? Does it mean that you have to give up all your friends in the name of avoiding your ex? It becomes quite awkward when you decide to be mature, not avoid each other and accept your breakup. Having the same friends is okay, but we all need other friends outside the intermingling zone we create within our relationships. Try to avoid the friendship orgy and let you partner stay with their friends whilst maintain yours as well.


There you have it, reflect on it and shake off what you personally feel is a bad habit for you and your relationship. The list goes on and this is a series of many, so to be continued……………………………………